I’m a Mom…What’s Your Superpower

This September our daughter will be two and my hubby and I will be married for three years. As a new mom and new wife I’m still learning to balance work, family church and all the little in between things that can suck up your time.

I recently attended my first ever women’s conference at Ridgecrest in Black Mountain, North Carolina where the theme was Super Women. It was three days of absolute empowerment. I learned so much about myself and who I am as a Christian woman, a mother and friend.

Some of the workshop sessions were about discovering your kryptonite, using the word to tap into power, and unleashing the superpower within. I heard so many wonderful testimonies from other women who have really overcome some situations that would cripple non-superwomen.

I recently attended a women’s conference at Ridge Crest in Black Mountain, NC. It was awesome.
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So before the conference I was starting to feel that I was failing as a wife, a working mom and sister. I was trying to be the perfect wife, the perfect mommy, perfect matron of honor that I thought my sister needed me to be. As mothers, as women we have a tendency to want everything to be perfect and it’s just an unrealistic expectation.

I think I have this mentality that “I don’t want to seem like I can’t manage the household, be a good wife, take care of baby girl, help get my sister down the aisle, do church work, and maintain all of the responsibilities at the job in which I get paid to focus on work.”

If I’m honest with myself, like most moms we don’t want to admit that sometimes we just can’t get it all done today. Sometimes there are days that require a lot of juggling just to accomplish a fraction of your massive to-do list.

But as a busy moms we have to remember that we are capable of thriving in may facets of our lives.

Instead of focusing on what I wasn’t accomplishing, I began to look at what all I had accomplished. My child was healthy, happy, fed and clothed. My husband had a home cooked meal 6 nights out of the week (shoot even Jesus Christ rested on the 7th day).

So I only got through with 4 stories that day at work instead of 6 (If you don’t know I’m a reporter for a daily newspaper). Ok I only drank 4 glasses of water and I ate chocolate before dinner. Ok I left dishes in the sink, but at least my family ate a great meal.

We as women put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be supermom more than anyone ever expects us to be.

I’ve come to realize that I manage to get a lot done before most people arrive for work.

Look at all I’ve managed to accomplish.

So I say to any mother who is doubting her abilities and questioning whether she is doing a good job — you are a good mother. If someone says oh you’re a mom as if it’s a bad thing look them straight in the eye and say: I’m a mom what’s your superpower?

I’m a Supermom….What’s your superpower?
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If you’re a supermom I want to hear about it. Share your stories of being a superwoman or knowing a superwoman in the comments below or share a superwoman photo via instagram or twitter or facebook.

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The Best Mother’s Day Ever: Gift Guide for the “mom” in your life

It’s my first official Mother’s Day. Can I get a whoot, whoot! Even though I was pregnant this time last year it just didn’t feel like I could celebrate because my little ladybug was no bigger than a Twinkie.

Anyway, it’s a day to honor mamas, appreciate grandmothers, show love to a bestie or any woman who has made a significant impact in your life. I’ve learned a lot from the women in my life about being a mother and I’m still learning as my little one continues to grow and I continue to develop into a different kind of woman.

I routinely call my mother for advice about everything from time management now that I’m a working mother-wife to how she managed to raise my sister and I with little money, but lots of love and quality time.

Since I never knew either of my grandmothers, both of whom died before I was born, I can’t tell you how thankful I am that our ladybug has two loving grandmothers and a great-grandmother who love her to pieces.

One of the sweetest things about being a mommy is getting hugs and kisses, but every now and then a little something tangible doesn’t hurt.

So if you need a last minute gift for your mother, grandmother or best girl pal, then look no further. I’ve included something for every “type” and it’s all under $65.

The ultimate Mother's Day gift guide. I've picked six crave-worthy items that you can get your mother. https://thehousethatwalkerbuilt.wordpress.com/

The ultimate Mother’s Day gift guide. I’ve picked six crave-worthy items that you can get your mother or special woman in your life. https://thehousethatwalkerbuilt.wordpress.com/

  1. Go Jane, braided strappy nude heels, $29.30. For the classy mom who still enjoys a good date night.
  2. Cravings, cookbook by Chrissy Teigen, $14.99. I am such a Chrissy Teigen fan. Her instagram food posts are heavenly. So for the foodie woman in your life, give her a book she can take a bite out of.
  3. Ily Couture, Mom Life Mug, $18. This is just such a sweet practical gift for the coffee or tea drinker.
  4. Lafco, moonglow apricot sunroom candle, $60. Got a candle lover who just can’t escape a spring-inspired scent then this candle is perfect.
  5. Honest, gel cleanser, $18. Honestly, the naturalista-minimalist would love this refreshing cleanser as part of their beauty routine.
  6. Sole Society, faux leather tote, $64.95. If you’ve got a stylish, eco-friendly mama then this faux leather tote is the right pick.

What are some other gift ideas you have receive? Oh and please share your gift ideas via instagram or twitter cause I’d love to hear them.

Lessons From Mama

Growing up in a small town my only concerns were getting to play outdoors and planning outfits with my childhood best friend. My mother was mainly a stay-at-home mom over the years who worked when she wanted. My sister and I went to church on Sundays, sometimes twice, choir rehearsal on Saturdays and bible study on Thursdays.

But those in between times we went to the movies, to Carowinds, which was the nearest theme park, had family cookouts, shopped for clothes or school supplies, ate homemade ice cream, had large Saturday and Sunday morning breakfasts and dinners, had dates — all of which was experienced with our mother, Margaret.

Everybody knew my mother, all of my friends, my sister’s friends, and even people we didn’t know. “Hey Mrs. Potts,” she would hear children shout from the halls of our school, which she frequently made surprise appearances. Now she’s “Mama Potts” to all of our friends and “Grandma Margaret” to my nieces and their friends. There’s many lessons I learned from my mother over the years, but these are the ones that come to mind.

 Lessons I Learned from Mama

  1. Be there. Two simple words with a huge impact. I may forget certain childhood memories or exactly how they happened, but above all else I remember she was there. If we had a school ceremony she was there. If we wanted some quality time we had mother-daughter dates. If we fell she was there to wipe the scratches and put Vaseline on them (because “Vaseline takes care of everything” or so she said). The main reason she was there was honestly, sometimes my dad was not. She didn’t work because she believed and still does that the Lord would provide.
  2. Love Unconditionally. It’s a fundamental truth in the bible that Jesus Christ loves us unfailingly. I saw it in my mother every day of my life. I’m sure there were times my sister and I disappointed her, but she loved us anyway. Not only us, but others. She would give you a kind or at times, a firm word and move on, but she did it out love. I grew to realize that sadly not every parent loves their child. But I knew my mother loved me and still does, unfailingly.
  3. Laugh often. Growing up my mother was at many times very serious and she still is today. She didn’t sugar coat and meant what said, but there were those times when something was truly funny, she laughed. She laughed loudly, uncontrollably at times and until her eyes became watery, her shoulders shook and she was doubled over. It’s OK to be serious, but there’s always room for laughter. I do it quite often, which annoys my sister because she says I laugh like a roller coaster before take off.
  4. Be You. My mother was unapologetically the same person outside of our house as she was behind closed doors. She spoke her mind and then she was finished. She was confident in her words and actions. She held her head high when she walked. Somewhere along the way I learned from her to hold my head up high and walk confidently even if I’m not on the inside. I talk a lot (ask my fourth or sixth grade teachers) and sometimes I get loud when I’m excited, I crack my knuckles (and it annoys my mother and my husband), I’m a sucker for pretty packaging, but that’s just me.
  5. Bargain shop. Growing up we were always, always on a “penny” budget. “No other family is on a penny budget,” my sister and I would argue. But my mother knew how to score a good deal. When we were kids and shopped for school supplies the cashier would say “ma’am only 10 tablets per customer.” My mother would quickly ask, “are you saying my child is not a customer?” It’s how we walked out of the store with 30 tablets for the school year. I thought it was embarrassing, but once we were done school shopping we had enough supplies for the year (and sometimes the year after) and for kids whose parents could not afford them. My sister calls me cheap, but says “Oh why didn’t you get me one,” when I tell her about a deal I found.

As I embark on motherhood myself I’m daring to dream that I’m half as good. I’m just hoping that my son or daughter will think I’m annoying sometimes, strict at others, God-fearing, funny, serious, a penny-pincher, confident, present, and above all — love them unfailingly. Happy Mother’s Day.